Nah, I expect nothing. I mean, I would HOPE for the best - but I don't think this will turn the tide that much. As I said, worst case scenario she get's an idea of where I am mentally and WRT the relationship as a whole. I don't know if I can really make things worse. The letter won't be unexpected or out of the blue. I'll just deliver when I drop off S and that'll be it.
Crimson
Rick said - if positive change is going to come in your M, it will come baby step by baby step. Just keep feeding her the truth in limited doses, then give it/her time for this to percolate. She will hear you when you speak from the heart, but on her timetable. Give it/her/you time my friend. The Great Pyramid was built stone by stone, and it is eternal, much like your new R with her might be.
