Forgiveness

[antlers]

I sent the following text to my brother regarding the current situation. Our kids are really having problems. He has talked with her previously about these problems, and she told him that she harbors a lot of resentment against me.

"All during our separation, throughout the divorce, and even after the divorce...I still wanted her back. She was moving on and I was holding on. I held on for 3 years before I finally made the firm commitment to let go. She and I had good communication for an 8 month period, between February and October of 2011. We laughed and joked. I still had hopes that I could get her back. It all came to a halt the first weekend in October when she hooked up with other guy again. I tried one last time after that. I saw it as my last desperate attempt to get her back.
She was over 3 years ahead of me at letting go and moving on. It (letting go and moving on) is still very new to me. I've only been at it a very short period of time.
My only concern now is my kids. They are broken. My kids have not been co-parented since before their mother left. My kids have not been a priority to their parents throughout all of this. My kids have been used as weapons by their parents against each other. These kids love both of their parents, and they need both of their parents.
My wish for my kids is that they receive the love, support, and cooperation from their parents that they need and deserve.
My wish for exW is that she has love, health, and happiness. I also hope she can learn to forgive me and let go of pain and resentment from the past because I would hate for it to affect her happiness or cause her any more pain."

He responded to my text with the following.....

"Then there needs to be a way for you to communicate this absolutely 'NEW' sentiment to her. I believe this to be the most important and defining 'moment' you have facing you."

I would appreciate hearing some feedback from you folks regarding this?