111- I hope you didn't think I was ignoring you in my previous post... We apparently were posting at the same time, and I never saw it.

Yes, her ex was military (that's how we met in the first place, through our H's at work) When we found out that her H was abusive to her and starting in on her kids, H and I stepped up for her (he and I hadn't stepped into our troubles yet.) She knows how to do the long distance stuff- I cross my fingers that they won't develop a strong bond enough that it keeps both their arms open that long. Because with *her* H, they had a life, history and kids to lean on- there was a reason to keep arms open... but with a new R with my H, it makes me sick to think that they will be discussing the 'longing' and 'can't wait to see you again'... vomit!!!

I do hope that when he's alone and life is scary, that it's me and our kids that pop in his mind.

I too wish you were closer- I would love to have a coffee with someone who 'gets it'. Because of my military lifestyle, I've only managed to keep a few close friends, and they are in other states- so phone/email are my only connections now.

I've read your sitch, and my heart goes out to you for the anxiety you must be feeling for the upcoming homecoming. ((((111))))


M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12