nhmom, I feel that our situations, though different are quiet similar. Sometimes in your posts i actually think you are talking about my H.
When you said this: H is trying to validate his thoughts of us not being right for each by coming up with the silliest examples.
That is my situation. My H actually said to me we sit on separate couches and that meant our relationship wasn't going anywhere. he said we never do anything (but seems to forget all about the dinners out, movies, cooking together, going to parties, sea kayaking and travel - all of which we have done in the past 6 months)
I constantly ask myself the question what am i waiting for and if i'm waiting because i don't believe the words he is telling me or am i waiting because the words he is telling me are so irrational that this can't be it
