You knew that this could be a possibility...


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Are you able to forgive, in whatever capacity that that entails ????

Because if you are incapable of forgiving , you will be walking in quicksand....

And that forgiveness isn't just for her, it is also a gift that you give to yourself...



That is why I asked you this...

Regardless the outcome of anything...

Answer that a little deeper for yourself...

Because without being able to do that ^^^^^

There is no reason to move in any direction except one.



The OM....he is not the reason for the demise..

He is a symptom of the demise. You admitted yourself that you were less of a husband than she deserved.



3, you seem very self-cognizant, yet you seem to gloss over some really key things.

How bad was it before ???....really