I just got caught up on your latest sitch. I am SO sorry. I am more angry with her (for you) than him actually).

It's all the more devastating because you were an open book to her about this situation and you have a valid fear that she will use that against you, trying to build her relationship with him.

And I agree with you, a real friend, would say... "never, nope, not in a million years would I go with you because my friendship with Pur is more important".
I have the dedication to friends and expect the same from them. But lots of women don't.



Question: was her EX military as well?

I am just thinking, over a year of long distance is a loooooong time. I just can't see this working out for them and for her to hold her arms open for him for that long.

I think that also it will be your situation he thinks of at night, when there are rockets over head and sleep is far.

He may not think of good things right away but I bet with some distance, clarity will come.

And I wonder for you too, this long year ahead of you both, if this will give you the time for clarity of your own. YOU may decide that his actions are NOT something you're willing to tolerate.

Who knows.

But I do HEAR you about feeling alone. About feeling like everyone drops you in your life. I feel the same way A LOT. And if I sit and wallow in it, it takes over. I wish SO MUCH we were in the same area, because I would come and hold your hand through it all.


I am not of much help here. My R is over. Instead of looking forward to our reunion in 5 weeks, I am dreading it.

I just wanted to know that I'm hear to listen and empathize.
111