I'm not ignoring you but I just found your post and have to ponder it.
I will say this about her comment to you re; how you made all the mistakes on her and now some OW will get the benefit of all her work.
it means she cares about that possibility AND believes you could change.
Those are positives.
also consider changing companies. You are not in the military now so there is not Stop Loss preventing you from CHOOSING differently...
and if you short sell your house, see what the banks rights are up there? Here all they get is the house, they cannot come after you for savings. I only say that^^^ so you don't lose a marriage to keep a house...if your w doesn't want to sell it at a loss she may need to stick around and help it look decent.
Boarding school---okay if you say so and if your son is happy, but I'd die if all my kids were gone at that age as it's hard enough for me now with 2 in/out of college and only one left at home...you barely see him....
empty nest syndrome is real and she probably has that going on too...
more later
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
