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Too Little, Too late 3 #2213031 01/16/12 04:45 AM
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OP purgatory Member P Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 825 Virginia	Part 1: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2209361&page=1 Part 2:http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2209442&nt=11&page=1 A brief overview of my current sitch: so you don't have to click all the way through the old ones...although there is some interesting stuff in there My H has decided that he has feelings for my BFF (now known as OW). I have ended my friendship with her. I have expressed anger to both of them (I know, not productive.) They aren't currently dating because OW is recently divorced too and she says she's not ready to date yet, but can see a future R with H. (I've actually thrown up several times thinking about this possibility) I am currently struggling to deal with this second bomb, and I'm contemplating going away for a few weeks. H has said that he "deserves to be happy", "I don't want to be alone, and I don't have to be", "I care about you, but I don't need your permission to date." Is this ^^^ when I'm supposed to 'ignore what they say, and only 50% of what they do'?? So I guess when they actually start dating, I'm not supposed to believe that either?? This is a new realm for me to be in- having to deal with OW (who was supposed to be my BFF). I'm not sure I have the strength to sit around and watch this happen- more power to all of you who have witnessed OW/OM in your WAS lives. It makes me sick (literally) to know that on his nights off, he will be at her house- with her kids. And on the nights that H has our boys, he will also be at her house- with her kids. I have expressed my upmost concern/un-acceptance for my boys getting confused about what their 'family' is. (Up until now, our two families have done A LOT together and we've mixed and match kids based on things she and I needed to do- everyone gets along like a family.) It has been suggested to me that I take some time, but don't completely leave my house (like I originally wanted to do) and I need to control my anger so they can't see it. How do you do this??? How do I hold my tongue from telling them how much they are killing me with no apparent remorse??? Any people who have had success with dealing with an OW/OM in your life- I could really use some suggestions! M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12

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Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 04:45 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 05:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 11:48 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/16/12 12:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/16/12 01:38 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/16/12 02:11 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 04:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 02:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	ces67	01/16/12 03:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	ces67	01/16/12 03:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 04:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 09:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 09:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/16/12 10:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/17/12 02:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 03:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 09:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 06:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 05:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/17/12 05:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 06:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 06:49 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/17/12 06:59 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 06:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 07:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/17/12 07:43 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/17/12 08:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 08:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 08:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/17/12 09:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 09:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/18/12 03:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/18/12 04:00 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/18/12 08:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/18/12 03:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/18/12 04:41 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/18/12 05:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/18/12 06:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/18/12 11:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/18/12 11:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/18/12 11:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 12:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/19/12 12:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 12:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/19/12 12:46 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/19/12 02:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/19/12 02:53 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 04:05 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/19/12 04:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/19/12 05:38 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/19/12 02:11 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/19/12 02:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/19/12 05:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/19/12 09:41 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 04:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/20/12 04:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/20/12 01:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/20/12 05:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/20/12 06:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 06:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/20/12 07:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 07:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/20/12 08:29 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/20/12 09:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/20/12 10:21 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/20/12 10:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	NLW	01/21/12 12:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/21/12 12:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 01:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/21/12 01:35 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	WenikiTiki	01/21/12 07:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/21/12 09:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 02:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/21/12 02:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 03:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/21/12 03:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 04:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 04:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	nhmom	01/21/12 05:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/21/12 05:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BFloat	01/21/12 06:04 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 06:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	kolja	01/21/12 10:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 11:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 07:11 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 07:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 09:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 09:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 10:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 10:35 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	purgatory	01/21/12 11:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 11:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/22/12 09:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/21/12 10:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/21/12 07:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	~ kd ~	01/21/12 08:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/19/12 12:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	BklynMom	01/18/12 11:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	sayitaintso	01/18/12 04:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	RoRoinMD	01/20/12 10:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	25yearsmlc	01/17/12 08:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	labug	01/16/12 02:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Oneeleven	01/16/12 02:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late 3	Rick1963	01/16/12 03:43 PM

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