You mentioned earlier the stuff your W said that to her the marriage was completely over....no chance. FWIW I heard all the same things over and over. After nine pain filled months of DBing I am hearing some really hopeful stuff. Just sayin...it really isn't over till its over.
Also just for comparison's when I used to say things to her like you're going to say to your W in ltr form, she used to reject it brutally and say it sounded like a sales pitch. Yet I was speaking from the depths of my soul. But I thought to myself so what....at least she heard the truth and if I died that day at least I said it.
And you know what ........she recently has been accepting what I said and in fact has embraced the concepts for herself.
Look, you're a really strong guy that deserves a lot of respect. She's gonna hear you just maybe not today.
Looking at this from an eternal point of view and for generations of your family to come wouldn't you regret not taking this opportunity to speak from your heart and soul regardless of the outcome. True love and honesty is never wasted in the universe.
