W moving this weekend..next leg of my journey

[25yearsmlc]

been so exhausted mentally and emotionaly but wanted to check in. She is draggng this moving out thing out....it's like a band aid. I need it to be done. She found a place jan 6, started moving things yesterday, and still not even moved any clothes. did sneak out with the washer and dryer.... i was not amused.

document an inventory of items taken...discreetly, just in case you need it later on, you never know and you don't want to take from your son what belongs to him rightfully...

My main focus is what to do about S since she has REFUSED like a child to talk about how we are to handle this. Yes 25... i did tell her it MUST be in writig. By the way, the case I posted for you to read -- it IS in my state. Im not in PA--- but on the east within driving distance for EE. My family loves to do long haul drives to visit family= so from where I am to phlly, not a problem.

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO worried about losing any time with S-- and W told me this am that her mom and friends have told her since she has legal rights that he shouldn't be allowed to spend the night over here.....OK. Really??

are they lawyers? Or are they high or delusional?

I read that case and it weighs in your favor with similar facts (your facts are better for you imo) and it's recent law...so what gives? Then again one of your Ls didn't know, so maybe hers doesn't either?? Is there another case I'm not aware of in your state?


This is why i haven't posted much. All i can do is just bleed from this open wound and WORRY. Will look into new L's tomorow. this state sux-- but that one case i posted gives me some hope,even though ours was adoption not biological mom v non bio mom. Maybe that's even a good thing.


it iS a good thing b/c that bio mother was in the position of your w, and she had to share custody w/ the "you" in that case...so yes it helps you....

Took my prescribed anti-anxiety med --- S and W are still here tonight. Maybe the last night? She won't tell me shht so who knows????? Pain pain pain...... will lead to a stronger and better me. Maybe Ill even learn how to do things -- fix it stuff around the house. Top of my list to buy is a women's toolkit. So glad for youtube how to videos. I CAN do this and in the words of gloria gaynor I WILL SURVIVE>

YES YOU CAN & WILL

Ya'll pray that I don't lose my S though ===he is my world and is all that really matters to me anymore. Right now I am struggling to forgive W for her nastiness....even though it's script and spew, telling me how worthless I am is pretty disheartening....

I do NOT fear you losing your son unless you give him up, which I don't expect....and I would warn you if I thought it wasn't going your way.

if she is telling you YOU are worthless, *(seriously? What a wack job)

you can say
"I don't deserve your contempt and I sure won't miss it."

IS, I don't think that hurts your cause but..& harrumph to thatanyhow...

Know that in the long run she is losing more than you, and let that sink in and then

let it radiate. It may haunt her if you act as if you believe it.

In time I hope you will. I do.