Antlers hit it right on the money!! You can't use the excuse that if you are happy your W won't want to come back. If it is true that your W would only want you back if you are unhappy then the question is would you want any part of that? I know I want my W back with every ounce of my being, but not if she wants me miserable, or finds me undesirable if I am happy and enjoying life. Jmo here, but I would rather risk losing her by being happy than risk losing happiness for a chance to get her back.
