is your h still with OW? IF not, how do you know? Well last weekend when we were together walking on the beach and chit chatting. I asked him if he was still involved with the OW. He said that have not had sex in awhile. Right before Thanksgiving. The newness has worn off for him. He said to be honest, I don't plan on having sex with her again. They do work together. So they can see and talk to each other everyday. He has lied to me so much, I really don't know if I believe him.
Does he still send and get texts from OWs?Yes. He also received some dirty pics from her and from his ex-girlfriend. How I know this, is because I looked at his cell phone and saw them. The pics were dated like a month or two after he left me. But I did find a text to his ex-gf (which she is married with 2 small kids) saying how he has thought about her all day and he was horny.
how do you feel about that?I don't like, but I can't do anything about it. I really don't dwell on it. But I figure if we ever talk about reconciling then is a BIG issue we would need to discuss.
what changes in him, if any, have you noticed? Truthfully, I have not notice any changes at all. He is still playing the blame game with me. I have mentioned to him that I thought if he went to counseling, he would benefit from it. I do see that he is still very confused about us. He did tell me he was still in limbo about us. He also told me that he has noticed my changes and likes them. That's the reason he likes spending some time with me. But he doesn't like to spend alone time with me. Only when D is with us. He said that he is not ready to spend alone time with me.
how do you feel about that?It bothers me but I don't dwell on it because there is nothing I can do about it.
Thank you so much for reading and your advice. I appreciate all the help I can get.
