You mentioned that you want to go dark to show change but then he calls and you cave... "b/c you miss him and...to show him...your changes..."
see how that contradicts your own plans?
here are some GAL things I did while we lived in the interior of Alaska, with a new baby. Most of these GALs do not cost a lot and the best ones involved meeting other people. And most of them were new to me.
I learned to fly a plane and got a pilot's license (this costs)
auditioned for community theater and got cast, often, met cool new people
did stand up comedy-very therapeutic
took a pottery class
volunteered at a women's shelter and got on Bd of Directors
did PTA galore
joined Officer's Wives club (should have done that long before)
learned to cross country ski, fish for serious fish and learned to hunt big game.
edited a hunting book that later went on to become a best seller
joined a writer's group, entered a piece in a contest and won
got in great shape by working out consistently and often, Looked good
saw a good t, took Anti'D's and used a tanning booth in the winter
took a French conversation class and
an Italian Cuisine class
You'll be happier, stronger doing things that stimulate you and do not remind you of your h. This will gain you the confidence you need to know you are a good catch.
It's a paradox but clearly he is more interested in you when he's not sure of you. Do not be predicatble or available with such minimal "effort" on his end.
What were his complaints when he left? As in what did HE SAY?
Were ANY of them valid? If so, work on those traits not b/c of him but b/c you don't want to have those traits -
so you are a better woman no matter what he does...
and learn to happy on your own.
Ironically it's attractive yet that's not the point.
make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
