W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P2

[MrBond]

"but I have not been arrogant with her and I feel that your judgement in that regard is wrong."

Read your first sentence in your response about the alcoholism. Rather than understanding it, and then dealing with it, you talk about how you won't tolerate it.

"How do I go around a communication problem?"

That's what you haven't spent enough time figuring out.

"She filed D on me and lies about it, she kicks me off her insurance and doesn't tell me, she books a trip that I will have to watch my S for 2 weeks and she fails to tell me about it, she lies about what she is doing when we were suppose to talk, and on on. This is what I would call games."

Games would imply there was malicious intent. There isn't any. Your W expressed to you that she was thinking about working things out, which put alot of expectations on her. I don't think you fully realize she does all that stuff without telling you because she's afraid. You haven't made it safe enough for her to open up to you. No games, just fear.

That's part of the "communication" problem. It's not that she can't communicate, she's afraid to communicate with you. It doesn't matter if you can't see it, the issue is that she can.

I still see you salvaging this, but you're going to need a great deal more understanding and compassion and PATIENCE. But that's my opinion.