First of all, my heart goes out to you.

Second, they deserve each other.

Here's a question: I expressed to H and her that I would like to sit with both of them to talk this over. I'm not sure what my motivation is for this. I really don't want to repeat myself, and I want both of them to hear what I have to say to the other one. My fear is that they will feel attacked and therefore unite against me- pushing them closer together quicker. I feel like I deserve to have my friend look me in the eye and tell me her choices (she's very passive aggressive and will not confront anyone unless over the phone)

Should I talk with them?


I'm sure after you have settled a bit you'll think differently about talking to them. To what end? Do you think it will change anything? She was never your best friend, she was not even a friend. She's an opportunist. Was your relationship one-sided before? Did she take more than she gave?

And your husband to call and tell you this, when you're supposed to be enjoying yourself???

I think you need to protect yourself from both of them. All they will do is continue to cause you pain at this point. How can you best take care of you and your kids right now? That should be priority one. Let them live out their soap opera without your input.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss