Kaffe, I agree with your point and I would not tolerate her behavior even if she was not drinking. To add to the topic of her drinking she also takes headache pills that were developed as an antidepressant but are more effective for headaches. She takes these everyday. I ask my Dr what would happen if you were to drink excessively and takes these pills and he said ti could kill you. I know just drinking excessively could do that but adding the pills is just playing with fire. I addressed this with her months ago when i discovered she was taking this pill and she just handled it in a secret way by talking to her Dr and not telling anyone else.

I know bad things happen to sober people as well but her drinking is not helping by any means. I was stupid enough myself to try drinking with her for a few months and realized it was worthless and stopped immediately because it providing no positive benefit.

I ponder writing an honest letter to her about everything as I think it is the least intrusive or hostile way to approach her. I'm not sure of the content of the letter as I hesitate to write about certain things but on the same token I'm tired of being afraid of saying what I truly feel.

What does everyone think about writing a letter and the content of the letter?


Me:29
W:28
S:2
M: 5 years
Bomb: 7-26-11
Separated: 8-20-11
EA w/ multiple OMs
W filed 1/2012