Jenna, I'm really sorry you're going through this right now. I've been reading, but I don't have it in me to respond with any helpful advice (I'm really struggling to keep going right now).... I'm only writing now to let you know that you're not alone out there.
Your H seems to be really conflicted about himself and about you- the best you can ever hope for is to step out of his way while he hits bottom so he doesn't take you with him (misery loves company, right?) Then you have to decide if you want to be the hand that he grabs as he comes out of the hole, or if you've had enough (only you can decide.)
wish I had more for you, sorry. ((jenna))
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12