Never thought I'd be here.......part 5

[labug]

Who knows why Melissa was felt ill that day? Maybe it had nothing to do with you. Don't let trying to figure out why others react as they do cripple you.

When my H told me he was done, no chance, it's over, I was crushed and I said similar things back to him and then, the clincher: "If you're so done then move out" and as if that wasn't enough the next day when he was still there I said: "So you're still here, I thought you were done!" Did I want him to move out? No, but I was hurt and angry and allowed my emotions to overrule my head. Your W was very hurt and did what she did in an attempt to stop the hurting.

You have a chance to touch that place where she is hurting. Make it short and sweet. I think more than half a page would be overkill and may seem manipulative. I wouldn't bring up a lot of what you did then, because that's going to bring it to the forefront again. Speak from the heart about what you would do going forward and your feelings about the importance of the relationship, and listening to her.