I will never forget seeing my h pull out of the driveway and literally waving at us smiling...
wtf?
That was then, this is now.
But you have to leave her to her task...it's happening, she is moving and that's that. Does not mean it is permanent but in some ways your life is about to get EASIER as far as having less tension in your life.
I did not think she could find her way without leaving and feeling free; and you conceded that you were unable to contain yourself well enough. So she felt smothered and needed space to breathe. Maybe this is a step she had to take.
It's like she is underwater and til she gets some air, she won't see what is really happening.
She has not stepped back to LOOK at her life or to go to a scenic overlook and see where she wants to go and where she's been. (Maybe she'll do EE someday, but til if and when...)
Let her go. You have no choice - so you may as well embrace this new reality.
Back off, take care of YOU and S and don't freak so much about things.
Remember that her "legal" position is NOT a given. Hardly... It's tenuous at best, and she KNOWS that.
Don't let your fears read into her comments; you are receiving them in a scary way. That helps no one.
You already knew you'd have to protect yourself with a vigorous defense of your legal rights as a parent. PERIOD. So you knew that already and this is NOT NEW Information..
but if she wants to discuss custody, You want it in writing...
Be brave. Do NOT let fear make any of your choices now.
In some ways, that fear based choice making helped get you here. Know what I mean?
Have faith my friend...and take care of YOU AND YOURS....
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
