Some of my goals: -think before I speak -if I feel anger, really look at where that's coming from -don't react to other's emotions -awareness, acceptance, action -define, and live in tune with, my personal values -stay in the present (this will be a real stretch for me) -try a new activity every month -call friends more often, not just when things are in the crapper
labug, I like your goals. I think these will help you work toward creating a road home that's paved and smooth. I think some of too, would be doing the opposite of what you did when you were a land mine planting road crusher. I would say be as upbeat and positive as you can in any interaction with your H. It appears you are trying to to do that. You're not being demanding in your interactions either, and I think that helps.
I think your email is fine. I think it's to the point and it's positive at the end. There's no pursuing and there's definitely not any venom in there.
