I don't know if one has to be "alone" to heal. Just a matter of being open to being honest and genuine with oneself... THAT is the process of healing...
Yes, IMHO too many people avoid that by getting "involved" with others or with drama or with anything to avoid the introspective work that helps us grow...
By all means keep posting as you feel you need support or need a safe place to vent or voice concerns... we'll always be here for you.
In the mean time, set only the boundaries that you feel you emotionally need... it may actually be good and healthy for you to communicate with your X.
Otherwise, keep on living your life and enjoying it for all it has to offer.
