If Cadet is right, and I suspect he is, that your spouse is coming out of Replay and thus is still very much in crisis, then friendship with a MLCer is tricky. I think it is more a question of being pleasant, but not too involved in their drama.
You own question to yourself - where does that leave you, is a good one and shows a healthy focus of attention.
And yes, anger fades over time if we don't feed it. It becomes less important, and we see the bigger picture.
I would take it as it comes, with no expectations, and kindness and good boundaries.
