La Bug-Clouds in my Coffee

[labug]

Haven't posted on my thread for awhile. I've been reading current posts on the board and learning a lot. Most importantly I'm learning about forgiveness and letting go of anger and resentment, about what true understanding and unconditional love really look like. Changing decades of ingrained behavior is not easy, but I am up to the challenge. And most of all, I want to have a good life.

Some of my goals:
-think before I speak
-if I feel anger, really look at where that's coming from
-don't react to other's emotions
-awareness, acceptance, action
-define, and live in tune with, my personal values
-stay in the present (this will be a real stretch for me)
-try a new activity every month
-call friends more often, not just when things are in the crapper

Something different happened yesterday, H emailed me! He has not initiated contact with me at all since he moved out. We've had contact but always his was in response to me.
I had written this on gunny's thread a few days ago:
He responded to my last email about the house (non-committal), mail (he'll change his address) and stuff in the garage (no answer). The tone seemed different, and I know it's hard in email to gauge that but there was something about his choice of words. He did tell me he was going to be out of town over the next 2 weeks which is something he's not let me know before.


The current email was to let me know that he had deposited money in the joint account. In it he said:
"I deposited the insurance and half of S22's interest payment. I hope I figured it right,... if not let me know."
The insurance money is monthly thing and we have an agreement that it will deposited by the 19th. The school loan payment is quarterly and I had forwarded the statement to him. His math skills are better than mine and let's face it, it's simple division and addition, so the part about letting him know if it was not right is interesting.

I'm trying not to read too much into this but it does feel different from the contacts we've had up till now. How is this for a response:

Thanks for letting me know about the deposit. You have better math skills than I do, so there's no need for me to check your work

S22 made the Dean's List! How great is that?

Feedback always appreciated.