H is a huge conflict avoider as well. Always says he just wants to live a simple life and doesn't want drama....well look where he is now.
This also describes my H and even tho he's not in an A, his conflict avoidance has painted him into an uncomfortable financial corner.
We talk about detaching a lot on these borads and it sometimes gets confused with no contact or going dark. Detaching with love means simply you respect the other person enough to let them live their life, walk their path, have their feelings.
It's not easy, nor is it pain free but it will help you more than anything else.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
