Oh Punkin, it all seems to come down to money. Money is the reason my H has not pushed his divorce ahead. He is bound and determined that I not receive alimony. He feels it's his money, he earned it, and that's that. No consideration that the way our M worked out as far as money earning went was a joint and mutual decision and I held up my end of the bargain and supported him with his endeavors as well. I am protected at this time and will continue to make sure that I am no matter how much it inflames him. I have to be able to live, too.
At first, it cut me to the core to think that he thought so little of me and I had made him so miserable during our M that he felt I deserved nothing. I came to the understanding that this is his problem and that there are always consequences even when he got something he thought he wanted.
I wouldn't be surprised in your case that the ow is pushing for this as well. You've done well protecting yourself. It is what it is for your XH. He'll just have to deal with it.
