Punkin, I have been going through something very very similar and I so relate to what you have just written I am now over a year post divorce and 6+ years post bomb. When I say my divorce took a long time I am not kidding.
Well the Court gave 4 months to finalise our rather complex financial settlement. Which my xh managed to drag out for nearly a year.
He is now insisting I owe him money which I checked with my lawyer, and I do not. The delays in exchange of funds meant that the small imbalance in assets was paid off from the income from his having the funds for a further 8 months . . .
I paid over my share promptly and on schedule. i haven't received a cent from his fund, although I have it in writing from them that it is now all sorted, and have a date for payment. But he now wants more money, to which he imagines he is entitled.
I feel as if even post divorce with these guys it never ever ends. In his shoes, even if I thought there was a sum owing [and he has inherited $$$ from his mother] I would just let it go in recognition and respect for the long marriage, but no, these guys just have to go on thrashing around, and throwing their weight around. It feels like persecution at times.
I have just finalised a document, which I have written [with my lawyer's approval] to save cost, and try and keep in pleasant [Hah] and sent it over to him. But I think he is intent on going back to Court, and trying to revisit the financial settlement. Which if he had read it, he is explicitly prevented from doing.
Anyway as I have posted, he is now back to spewing at me. I received a really hostile email from him on New Year's Day, in response to my first attempt to settle [and I do have to respond or use a lawyer, at considerable expense] Oh yes, and at the end he wished me a Happy New Year, and good wishes.
If I read this in a book I wouldn't believe it. The version here is the non dramatic and edited one. The reality is crazier. My therapist friend says xh wants attention . . . In general I am against corporal punishment but i feel like giving him a short sharp slap, of sheer exasperation and saying Wake Up. It is over.
