Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
and c) why does it matter now?


Because I don't want to KEEP hurting her. I did enough damage within the confines of the R. I really don't want to think that I'm continuing to be cruel by keeping my distance from her.

She is asserting that I am being heartless and mean by going dark, but in doing so, it seems like she's trying to guilt-trip me into staying in her life so she gets to have me AND OM, with zero consequences for her behavior. As guilty as I am and have always been of my own behavior, I refuse to make it up for that way. I don't think that kind of expectation of hers is fair either to me OR to her.

Us: mid-20s
T: 5.5 yrs
M: 2 yrs
S + OM: 6/21/11
Legally S'd: 9/9/11

In this life, you have a limited amount of mental currency. You get what you pay for, so spend it wisely.

So it goes. --Kurt Vonnegut