What your H is doing is so so wrong. Has he ever thought about going into politics? a la Newt or John Edwards.
I love that your H wants to convince you what a great guy he is, "dont worry I wont think of the bad times just the good ones"
Does he really think your kids will understand one day when they find out Daddy left mommy while she facing a health battle??
But whatever, we cant change him. The best we can do is get you all the support you need so that you can be the best purg & best mom possible.
If going to Florida is an option where you have support, why wait, go now. I only had 1 of the 3 elements that you have going on, which is my H leaving & saying there is no chance and it was unbearable. I am very grateful that my family showed up big time.
You can not do this alone. Your kids need you to be mentally healthy.
I will with hold comment on your BFF till you announce her decision.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13