W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P2

[MrBond]

This may be a moot point, but I stand by what I and the others have been telling you. You may feel you have changed, but the one glaring thing in your posts that you have not seemed to change is you EXPECTATIONS.

The expectations have caused you to sound a little arrogant rather than compassionate. If that tone comes through in your posts, then I can imagine they might be sneaking out of your conversations with your W.

Case in point:

"I'm ready to move on as she has really just been playing games with me this whole time."

She HASN'T been playing games with you. From the way you've described her, she sounds like a woman in pain and is just trying to find A direction in life. You have/had the choice to lead that or push it away.

Her texting the other guys is a security blanket for her. She needed that safety net because it sounded like she was afraid to get back with you and that you might be judgemental, etc. Believe me it comes across in your posts.

"She is following in the footsteps of her father pretty much exactly. She never had much to say this entire time from the day she dropped the bomb back in July. She has major communication problems and I'm not sure she will ever tackle them. She left home at 18 to get away from problems, she always wants to change jobs due to problems, she shuts down to avoid problems, or she just gets rid of the problem so she doesn't have to address the problem. She will carry those problems into her next relationships."

If you understood all these things about her, then you could have worked your way around these obstacles. Sometimes going around something and approaching it a different way works much better than hammering at it.

"if she decided to ditch me then that's her fault or problem."

Same here. You see her leaving as her 'problem'. She doesn't want a problem. She wants a solution.

"I learned what truly makes me happy or not."

Nothing in life "makes you" feel happy nor is it their job to make you happy. You just make the decision to BE HAPPY that's all it takes.

Imagine your W has this wall up. You keep battering at it with talks of R, how you stand, etc. This just makes her fortify the walls even stronger. So rather than doing the same thing, try looking for holes in the wall that will weaken it. Find enough holes and the wall breaks.

It's hard and takes patience and no expectations.