WAS: I am going out with my friends and leaving my spouse to take care of the kids.
LBS: I can't believe my spouse is leaving me home with the kids.
or
WAS: I am going out with my friends and leaving my spouse to take care of the kids.
LBS: I get to spend alone time with my kids!
It IS a matter of perspective.
The WAS perspective did not change. It may appear as though they are taking advantage of the LBS.
The LBS gets to CHOOSE whether they want to feel victim or if they want to feel gratitude.
When we are in resistance, it's a fight between two people and a win/loose situation of who is getting the upper hand.
When we are in acceptance, there becomes no fight. Any possible negative intention of the WAS is deflated in one fell swoop of a positively intended attitude and choice of the LBS.
