Rock and an hard place

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Thanks Guys

You are only a doormat if you allow yourself to be one...

You are only taken advantage of , if you allow that to happen..

Absolutely, Mach1.

I wonder, though...

What is the litmus test for being (or allowing yourself to be) a doormat. It's kind of in the eye of the beholder, isn't it?

We all have to do things that we don't like. Sometimes someone else depends on you to do such things.

I suppose that if one allows this to be one sided, then one is allowing themself to be a doormat.

But whether or not the situation is one sided is a matter of perception.

A WAS feels that they've been a doormat, and will not stand for it anymore. The tables are often turned on the LBS.

It can get kinda circular, methinks.

I guess it still comes down to this:

...there is no right or wrong way to do anything in this...

There is , however , a way to do it that is right or wrong for your situation...

And the trick is to get an accurate picture of what your situation really is. Not very easy when you're in the middle of it.

Everything you posted is true, KD.

As far as the doormat thing goes, I think the circle can only be broken if one follows this advice:

Do what is right for you, Andy. Be the person you ARE and that you want to be. Be aware of and responsible to your actions.