Building a more solid personal Foundation

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The update on the D:

So the D had been continued from Nov. 4th to Jan. 9th pending my job search. I’m still looking for a job down there, however I felt it was best to move forward with the settlement agreement to get some closure. It has been long enough.

My L and I corresponded moving forward. She (my L) agreed to get the settlement agreement drafted up and continue it until March 5th. I told her that I liked the idea of continuing it for 2 months, because it gave me additional time to find a new job and move. Furthermore, I told her that my W and I have come a long way and if (a BIG IF) there is a possibility to reconcile, it would be when I move and my W has to be without our children half of the time.

I did not say to her that my W and I are working towards reconciling or even that we had discussed it.

My L with all of her infinite wisdom told my W’s L that we are working on the Settlement Agreement and/or Reconciliation. WT…!!! I did not say that!! My L told me that my W’s L said she just wanted to get the D over with and we had not talked about reconciling. Ugh….very infuriorating.

I called my L on it too. No apology. Not even a reply. Another lesson learned.

This past Tuesday, I scheduled my next trip to NM flying in on the evening of Jan 26th and returning the morning of Jan. 30th. I emailed my W to let her know when I will be in town. She asked me if I needed for her to book a room for me (she works at a hotel). I asked her if she could book it for Friday and Saturday nights and if it would be okay for me to stay at her place Thursday and Sunday nights.

She said that she felt it was best for me to make other arrangements. SURPRISE!!!

I waited to respond, because I was not happy about it. I sent my L another email letting her know that what she did was already having an effect on my sitch.

When I replied, I told my W that I understood. I don’t want to impose.

We did work out my arrangements. Good times.