Last night was H's soccer night, so I had a nice and quiet evening by myself after S was in bed. I was still reading in bed when H got home. I asked him how the game went and he told me about it. Then he asked me whether I played with the iPad. I said no and he asked why not. I kind of shrugged it off and said that it was his. He said 'no, it's ours'. I just left it at that and asked him if he could plug in my Kindle. H slept on the couch again.
This morning I was getting ready for work in the bathroom. H comes and leans against the doorway and stands there and looks at me. I kept doing what I was doing, then asked if he needed me to get out. He asked "Where did we go wrong?" (I'm thinking great, more R talk). I said that we could drive ourselves crazy trying to find the exact reasons (because I know there are many factors that contributed and I really didn't feel like bringing everything up so that he can blame me some more), but the more important thing is how we want our future to be. He asked me how I envisioned it. I said that we'd both need to sit down and decide together. Luckily S interrupted with something. S got 4 shots at dr's yesterday and was afraid that it would hurt when he took his shirt off (he still had the bandaids on). I was going to help him, then H asked why I always need to baby S and he needs to learn to be independent. (This is one of the things we disagree on. I don't baby him all the time and S is pretty independent...and he's only 4). Then H said that he knows that it's my nature to be nurturing and all. I jokingly said that I would just as much take care of H, even if he's like '50' (a little overestimation, just trying to be funny). He came closer to me and sort of gave me a half hug. Then he went on to say "why are you XX sisters so crazy and stubborn" and I don't remember what else. It was not an accusing or mean tone, more like 'you guys drive me crazy'. I'm still trying to be funny and tell him he knew that when he met me, and he said no he didn't. Then I said he knew that when he married me, and he said no, but then was hesitant and just shook his head.
Anyway, that was our little interaction this morning. I tried to play it cool. Tried to make myself look good while getting ready and sort of ignored him. He also asked what we were doing this weekend, and again said he was going out tomorrow night to watch the football game. And since I made plans for tonight, he asked what time I was leaving and whether I'd be home for dinner.
