So its not ME doing new things, but it is me living MY life. She gets to enjoy things I have already done and I get to enjoy things I love doing even more because she enjoys it also.
As I said, I never just sat around and said, "W, what do YOU want to do today?" I usually asked her if she wanted to try something I had already done, and mixed something that I know she loves doing in with it.
Really ?
Read the above in bold and tell me how that makes you feel...
Is that the way it always was ?
That you were so interesting that women should bow to you and what you are involved in ?
I'm not buying that, sorry...
You stated in other threads that you were OCD, and you were working on that...
How ?
I know you feel like I am beating you up here , and I know you probably cringe when you see my name pop up on your thread.
I can tell you this...
The things that people get defensive and argumentative about....those are the things that need to be looked at.
Those things not only send up a Red Flag with other posters, but they send up a Red Flag within yourself. Hence the defensiveness.
I also don't think that this is even about you getting out and achieving goals anymore.
This is about how you dealing with OCD/controlling behaviors.
