Glad to see your response to my provoking statement. I think it's important to live for you, be a fascinating person on your own, be someone on your own. Your earlier statement that there wasn't anything new you wanted to do other than be married was something I hoped you'd explore further and revise.
Back when I was dating, some guys wanted to just enjoy being with me doing whatever I wanted to do. It was like there was no person there, just a reflection of me. I did not like that, and certainly didn't take it as caring as they probably intended. This is where I get the "lazy" idea. Far more interesting to me were the guys who had their own exciting lives and were interested in sharing them with me.
As the parent of teens I can't GAL by focusing on them because they do not want or need that from me. It would be too much responsibility to lay on them that my having a life depends on their willingness to do stuff with me. Others with smaller kids can do that, but I wonder if it's better for you to find some GAL things that are just for you. (Of course, keep doing wonderful things with your son too, that's important but it's not all there is to GAL.)
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
