"Just tell me how a woman is going to get a man to go to MC without telling him why it's necessary to go in the first place. If she actually uses words to communicate then you either see it as nagging or you don't even listen to what she has to say."
Sandi - I wasn't suggesting that a man will go to MC simply because the W asks him to. If all the W is doing is complaining about the H shortcomings then it is just words as far as the H is concerned. But when the W incorporates an action into the those words such as MC, then the H might take notice. All I'm doing is restating a point that MWD made in her KLA series that men are fixers and respond best to actions vs words. Or, in this case words supported by actions (i.e. MC).
"I think you've contradicted yourself somewhat. If you see it as nagging and then when she stops you think everything is "finally getting better", doesn't that tell you something was wrong when she tried to tell you? Or do you mean it just got better for the man b/c she finally shut up?"
Again, I'm just restating a point the MWD made about how men are wired differently than women and how when what they see as nagging stops they think, "ok things must be getting better or it's no longer an issue." It doesn't mean that it is true, just that that is how men perceive things. It doesn't make it right or any less important, just that this is often how it is perceived by many men.
