Originally Posted By: mainemom1
I'm tired of being hurt and angry and worried and scared.

Then stop.
"When it is dark enough, you can see the stars". - Emerson
I saw that posted recently and thought it was enlightening.
We all have experiences regarding our divorces that involve profound losses for us. Suffering and loss. But I'm learning, and have learned a great deal, that it will not get better with just the passage of time. I had to take positive actions during that passage of time. Steps, for me anyway. Accepting God's forgiveness. Then forgiving myself, and accepting that forgiveness (took me three years to do that). And then...forgiving her...for the pain that she caused me. That was a big one. I did it though...and continue to do it. And it has made a positive difference for me. I couldn't have imagined doing that just a short time ago. I did it for me...and it has helped me.


"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.