I am so sorry but it is part of the MLC for so many - there are those who continue to have good relationship in that area, but I suspect the overwhelming majority get this message from our MLC spouses.
Please take a moment to think about this: what normal person tells their spouse of many years this, and does not expect it to be hurtful? It is not normal to just tell someone you love and care for that you do not find them attractive any longer.
