Please explain the justification

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks cadet.

Hi 25. No, I don't think it's pointless to post there. Not sure I understand why you ask.

b/c 1) I answered this at length on another of your threads and it was ignored only to be repeated here....

2) it's much easier for us to follow ONE thread so all the information is in one place. That matters...

Sometimes I can see why you might post on another forum to get feedback BUT then you direct them to your main thread to save them and you time.

3) Also there is a natural tendency to leave out data b/c you tire of reposting it and then we give advice based on incomplete data and it may conflict with better formed opinions on your fuller thread...

so that's my point.

the more the merrier only helps if we are talking about the same situation which we are not, if the facts change. And your facts do vary in your threads some...not sure if you noticed or intended that.


I am assuming that not everyone participating in the forums reads every topic of every forum,

...there are forums I've never read and I have been here for years. Most newcomers post on 1- 2 forums when they arrive with maybe a 3rd if theres' an A...

Someone here a long while like me, is either going to focus on newcomers IF they are posting to guide,

OR theyll post on older thread topics with more people farther down their journey so they can compare notes.

If it helps or if you think I'm just busting your chops, read up about posting and their suggestions b/c it's not suggested that you have a bunch of threads.

Esp once you've been "spotted" as you have been.

We like to know who is who and what's going on with them and not have to switch threads to find an update that affects the advice we give.
Do you see how that could delay them getting good advice?

Do you post identical posts in other threads? If not, you will very likely leave out a detail in one side that matters...we are here to help you find answers

but if we have to hunt around and find pieces of a puzzle, it makes it a lot harder

so I figured those reading this forum might have some insight into the question I posed. I don't see the need for mutual excusive posting. More the merrier I say for searching out help, insight, and wisdom from a variety of perspectives.

I'd be very interested in hearing why some might not think she is going through a mlc.

I would need the details again...But regardless my very next question to you would be

what difference will it make in YOUR changes and YOUR course of action? that is the only thing you control...you


This effort she's engaged in to drop the past, re-define herself, and seek out a new career (which btw she was away again fri/sat and apparently interviewing, and last night was a backslide hoping for some more info and my opportunity to support her, didn't go so well) seems very symptomatic. I can re-post this to my other thread, I just wasn't sure that everyony reading this forum would catch my mlc questions in the newcomers.

Thanks, as always for everyone's help.