Wow - my sister in law just sent a nice note to me out of the blue. She offered to get the two of us in touch with someone who could help if we thought it was still worth a try (of course, one of us DOES...). She said she thought my wife was being selfish, and was lucky to have me.

Now, it doesn't CHANGE much - and could certainly blow up in my face if my wife ever starts feeling like she's being flanked. But the emotional support was very heartening.

Me: 36
Her: 35
Together 7/09
Married 8/7/10
Separate rooms since at least April 11
"I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11
She moves out of state/files 2/7/12
Dissolution final 5/12