Well, crap! I don't have much good advice... though I can confess to being a little perturbed!
I think it really does sound like a case where it's him and not you. He sounds like he doesn't feel good about himself (for whatever reason) and he is pulling into himself. Not looking for or wanting a partner through whatever it is. Of course, the message that gets sent is that it's you... I think we all know better!
Sending some huge hugs your way! If I have any ideas, you know I will send them on!
