Check out the content in this LINK starting with Bustorama's post on 12/31/2011 at 1:47pm then page forward from there. Lots of good stuff on going dark and detaching.
Also, check out the video clip in the same thread. I think the answer to your second question is in there.
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife