acceptance stage, where I am becoming a little more balanced in my guilt feelings about the end of the m. I still take responsibility for my actions, but I am a little more cognizant of the fact that my w shared some responsibility also.
Gunny, I think this is the phase I'm moving to also. I know I have a lot of work to do on myself, I know he had his part in things, I'm not angry at him, I accept (and understand) his pain and best of all, I know I will be OK.
I'll have to read the book.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Glad to hear you are moving into the we shared responsibility for this phase. About a year ago one of the vets put up a lengthy post trying to shakes us out of our funk. I wish I could find it to repost.
Believing in the shared responsibility is an important step, as is knowing you’ll be more than fine when you finally work through this. We all progress at different rates when left to our own self made programs.
Frankly I don’t think it matters how one gets there so long as one arrives.
I have special pictures of the new little one. Pictures I am not to post on FB. Gunny, I know you’ll appreciate this. She has 4 names on her birth cert. Her initials are K.B.A.R. I chuckle each time I think of it.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
