Purg, Just wanted to say this observation is spot-on!
"I think our WAS try to 'set us up' in scenarios that will cause us to react in our 'old' ways...so then they can say: "see. you haven't changed.' I struggle with this because I sometimes feel myself slipping back into old habits- but now have the tools to keep me from going there. It's rewarding to see the look on my H's face change to confusion when I don't react the way he expected me to.... and that makes me want to do it more!"
