There's two of us now telling you to zip it up - we both have been there, done that.
Trust us! Stop asking everything! BTW, remember that everything you tell his relatives will reach him one of these days.... blood is thicker than water, and I learned my lessons the hard way, and no matter how close they are to you, they will try to "help" by interfering, which will ultimately be detrimental to your R.
Again, the ground rules: No talking about anything to your H, even if he initiates it, change the topic!!!!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go