Moving forward together and piecing

[25yearsmlc]

All I can see is that he did this... he chose to do what he did with ow... and so.... now what.


that is THE question isn't it? NOW WHAT?

1) You divorce him or 2) you stay married. IF you stay married, you A) either forgive him which is a daily process and series of choices to make

or b) you hold onto it and let it emerge every time you feel insecure and can throw it in his face or hold it over his head forever.

I suspect if you choose to hold onto it, you won't stay married that long anyhow so then you'd have wasted time while still heading to divorce.

So if you really TRULY are choosing to stay married, and I'm not sure you are,

then you really only have one choice. To begin the process of forgiving him and letting it all go...

and working on yourself so that your achilles heel is seen for what it was...mistakes others made in how treated you. As a child, NONE of that could possibly be b/c of you.

As an adult perhaps you chose poorly, which is not the worst flaw to have in the world unless you keep making the same mistakes with that flaw

and insure you'll never let yourself be happy.

The reason we hammer GAL so much here is b/c it helps with the self esteem issues too and a large part of what is holding up your ability to forgive is that you are not yet seeing yourself as the lovable woman you can be.

the happier you are with yourself and your life the less difficult letting go of the past becomes. Remember the words in our vows, "From this day forward"? I take more notice of those words now than before.

Become your best most lovable self and let that sink in your heart til you know it's true (and this is YOUR work to do and no one else's)...our happiness has always been solely our responsibility. Putting it onto someone else's shoulders is unfair and burdensome. Once you are a woman only a fool would leave and you KNOW it, then it will radiate.

What are your GAl things now and have you joined anything or taken a class so you can make new friends?

you can do this

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