WCW, You are doing great! You will find that middle in time. Don't rush it...take things slowly. Yes, your h's brain is finally thawing out from the deep freeze.
Be sure to let him know that you appreciate his hard work...they do need that validation as they re-emerge from the Mother Ship.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.