The DB thing may already be STARTING to slowly pay off for me (just barely, but wasn't there something about noticing the small positives??) so there's definitely truth to what you say!
One of the most important things you can do is learn to recognize small positives. My DB coach is really big on that. She can even make me see what i thought was a negative situation or interaction in a positive way! The thing to remember though, is not to overanalyze while looking for a positive in something. I have a hard time with that sometimes. Also, another important thing....quit while the interaction is still positive. Don't drag it out in other words. I used to have a tendency to get a positive response, and then go for a little bit extra, trying to make her say she still cared, or something of the sort. That has the opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve so learn to quit while you're ahead and live to fight another day.
