so, my dilemma is this...In my head this feels like im just being nice and maybe just a little pursueing...I dont know, im not use to doing it and im not sure what it looks like. Is this baby steps or is this me annoying the hell out of him??
And the other side of my brain is asking, Is he just going along with this because of the settlement papers he was sent last week, thinking he shouldnt really make me mad right now....He wants to try to get me to agree to less.
OR...did the settlement papers scare him enought to rethink what he is doing? and ask himself if it is worth it?????
hi, ITM. I've been following your thread for a while, but this is the first time I've "chimed in". I agree that there are always a lot of "what if's" we can think of (and we're all really good at that...) but I think the best policy for you at this point is to think positive thoughts (you know, the "as if" method from DR) and just keep going - as you wrote towards the end...
Originally Posted By: imthemom
regardless...I am just getting this out...I intend to keep on my path, working on detaching and staying kind hearted and forgiving...detach..kind hearted..forgiving...yep yep!!
if your "positive thoughts" were too positive, you'll find out soon enough, but in the meantime, why get upset about things you're not even sure about? assume the best, not the worst, as your default right now. because there are plenty of positive signs here and maybe these really are "baby steps" towards turning things around.
