Hi everyone (or hi to those of you who read my thread)
Question to those of you who have had to 'act as if' under duress/extreme awkward moments
My Ex is due home at the end of Feb.
I've decided to stay there until it's convenient for me monetarily wise and time wise to move (not to mention moving when the snow is mostly gone here. Moving in minus 20 weather in 5 feet of snow sux poo-poo and should be avoided at all costs).
(oh and for those of you who read above thing I am being a selfish bi-aaaaa...h... please have a glance at my thread and you will understand why).
My sitch is that ex is coming home from deployment at end of Feb. Things as they stand are pretty volatile. But with the 6-7 weeks left, it should cool off b/c I've gone no contact. His horrible anger issues usually fizzle out when I ignore him.
My plan: Once home, i will make sure his house is in ship-shape, just so that there is no reason for him to yell at me about that. And also to take his lead. If he seems bi*tchy... to make myself scares.
I plan on moving my personal bedroom belongings to the spare room in the basement ahead of time.
Any ways that you can suggest to 'act as if' that won't come off as fake and condecending?
Also, do you think it's appropriate for me to start packing some of my personal stuff from around the house? I mean stuff that is not needed IE: nicknacks.
OH and I want to bring the TV that is in our room to my new basement room.
Is it okay for him to come home to that or does it come across like I am 'trying to prove a point'.
FWIW: the acting as if I don't care for him any longer I can do I think. I am so mad at the latest discoveries that I no longer want him back (unless he claims he was abducted by aliens and shows me a sworn statement from the ship's crew).
Thanks so much for the assistance guys, I thought you'd have the best advice here!
